THE RESILIENCE MILESTONES

I recently came across this gem……  www.positiveparenting.au/resilence-

I like the fact that it is Australian and very practical, so I have included the bulk of the blog…

From ages 4 to 18, children go through a critical journey; one that prepares them for confident, capable adulthood. At the heart of this journey is independence, shaped by what we call the 10 Accomplishments of Character, the foundation of emotional strength, self-discipline, and resilience.

To grow into resilient adults, children need to reach key behavioural milestones at each stage of development; essential skills and habits that help kids handle life’s challenges with confidence.

Your Role as a Parent

As a parent or caregiver, you are your child’s most important guide. We recommend five core actions to support your child's progress:

• Set the example – model the behaviours you want to see
• Praise and encourage – focus on effort, not just outcomes
• Teach and inspire – explain the 'why' behind your values
• Coach and discipline – guide, don't control
• Track their progress – use our Milestones to see how they’re growing
• And above all— let kids be kids through play, exploration, and connection

https://www.positiveparenting.au/resilience-milestones

Developmental Milestones in Children

As your child gets older, their level of personal responsibility increases. From simply brushing teeth to contributing to family meals and managing their own financial situation, it is important for their growth and development that they can prepare for the independence adulthood brings.

Split into two year timelines, our Milestones act as a guideline for raising confident, resilient, and independent children - giving them the skills to stand on their own two feet and combatting the rising levels of mental health issues in younger generations.

Children aren't just miniature adults. They are unique individuals deserving of respect and autonomy. This article explores the concept of respect in parenting and how it fosters healthy child development.

What Does Respectful Parenting Look Like?

Respectful parenting goes beyond simply loving your child. It acknowledges their individuality and right to make choices within reasonable boundaries. Here are some key aspects:

• Accepting Your Child for Who They Are: Love your child unconditionally, not based on their achievements or if they fit your mold.
• Providing Autonomy: Gradually give your child more control over their lives, allowing them to make age-appropriate decisions and manage their playtime.
• Setting Clear Boundaries: Provide clear expectations and rules to help your child navigate the world safely, but avoid being overly restrictive.
• Open Communication: Listen actively to your child's feelings and concerns. Encourage open communication and create a safe space for them to express themselves.

The Emotional Bank Account: A Tool for Building Trust

The Emotional Bank Account, a concept from Stephen Covey's "7 Habits of Highly Successful People," offers a helpful analogy for building trust in relationships. Imagine your relationship with your child as a bank account. You make deposits (investments) through positive interactions and withdrawals through negative ones.

• Investments: These actions build trust and strengthen your connection with your child. Examples include:
• Active listening
• Attending to their needs
• Keeping promises
• Offering sincere apologies
• Recognizing their progress and positive qualities
• Withdrawals: These actions erode trust and damage your relationship. Examples include:
• Ignoring your child
• Breaking promises
• Gossiping or betraying confidences
• Being dishonest or arrogant

Benefits of Respectful Parenting

By fostering a respectful and trusting relationship with your child, you reap numerous benefits:

• Improved Communication: Children who feel respected are more likely to communicate openly and honestly with their parents.
• Stronger Self-Esteem: Respectful parenting helps children develop a positive sense of self-worth and confidence.
• Greater Resilience: Children learn to cope with challenges and setbacks in a healthy way when they feel supported and respected.
• Healthier Relationships: Respectful parenting teaches children valuable communication and relationship skills they carry into adulthood.

Respectful parenting is an investment in your child's future. By showing genuine respect and building trust, you create a foundation for a strong, healthy relationship and raise a confident, resilient individual.

Thank you, 
Kylie Dunne
Deputy Principal
kdunn34@eq.edu.au